Nobody is too rich, too famous, too successful, too popular or too happy to suffer from depression. The last one is perhaps the most important: what you see isn’t necessarily what is there. That’s why ‘Be kind’ is bandied about so much: you can never know what is going on inside a person’s mind. What you say could be ignored, could be taken to heart, could make a person’s day or could make a person cry. That’s how responsible we all are. So just be kind. It feels better than being cruel, thoughtless or negative anyway. And to the people who think they may be more unhappy than is ‘normal’. To those who are not okay really, but also not okay with telling people that they are not okay. Please do not be ashamed. I know that it is SO HARD. What will people think of you? Don’t they have worse problems than you? They can’t help anyway. You’ll just make them uncomfortable. They’ll think less of you and that will make things even worse.
People who love you will not think less of you. Health professionals will not think less of you. Depression is an illness. And nobody is too rich, too famous, too successful, too popular or too happy to be ill.
You are not burdening your family or friends by telling them how you feel. And the sooner, the better. It’s okay to ask for help, to ask people to look out for you. As a human being, there is little more rewarding than being able to care for those you love. As a human being, there is little more devastating than losing a loved one. Except perhaps losing a loved one that you could have helped, had you known.
Look out for your loved ones. Be kind to strangers. Think before saying, doing or posting anything that could upset another person. You do not know what is going on in a person’s head. But you can ask. Ask and tell. Ask and tell.
The death of Robin Williams sparked this post. But it is something that has been on my mind for some time. I was apprehensive about covering it on my blog. But staying quiet won’t help anybody. Speaking up might.